Did you get ‘The Message’? I Did!

Have you ever wondered…Where did we all get the ‘message’ that childbirth is supposed to hurt? I remember like it was yesterday, do you?

I know I may be dating myself, but when I was growing up, there weren’t many shows or movies on TV that showed women delivering babies. I grew up in a time when kids were expected to stay out of “Grown Folks’ Business”. During those days, there was a shroud of secrecy around sex, pregnancy and childbirth that carried the aire of “Don’t ask, and we definitely won’t tell”.

I was one of the fortunate ones. My mom actually gave me ‘The Talk’…TWICE!  Although she was pretty open and liberal about the subject, I wouldn’t dare ask the barrage of questions that were running through my head.

It wasn’t until that fateful day in middle school that everything changed. I was in my Human Development class (that was the PC way of saying Sex Ed) when I watched the most traumatizing video any 13 yr. old would ever see.

SCARED-WOMANOur co-ed class actually watched the entire natural birth of a baby!  All of our eyes were peeled wide, mouths open and a quiet gasp stilled the room. We were all paralyzed and glued to the screen. I couldn’t even swallow!

The screaming, the blood and the fear that filled the entire room was all the birth control I would ever need!  It was just way too much.

That was the day I decided that if I ever got pregnant, I would be the first in line for the strongest drugs they had. I planned on telling my doctor to “Give me a Double and keep those drugs coming”! LOL!

I carried the thoughts and feelings from that video well into adulthood. It marked me.

We don’t think about how things are imprinted on our minds. But at some point, we were ‘programmed’ to believe the absolute worst about the absolute most amazing experience we can have as women.

Fortunately, I now know of a different possibility in both pregnancy and delivery and I can’t wait to share more with you.

So what about you? Do you remember when you first learned that childbirth was ‘supposed’ to hurt? I want to know.  Share your thoughts below.


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