Misdiagnosed Miscarriage…A Silent Epidemic!!

One Mother’s Desperate Warning to ALL Women of Faith!

By Kellye ‘Queenie’ Brown

 

“WE’RE PREGNANT!!!”

Valentines Day, 2012 was a beautiful day. By March 2, we found out we were pregnant with our very first baby. My husband and I were over the moon. We celebrated our new secret and reveled in the fact that after 19 years together, we would finally be parents.

Although I was shocked, I now understood why God had so miraculously healed my body of a 12 year illness, and completely delivered me from 6 medications just months before.  Being 41 was never a concern for me.  I was more excited to be beyond the pain of fibromyalgia and the bondage of medication. I looked forward to experiencing the bliss of a supernatural pregnancy and a pain free delivery. Don’t laugh! Yes, with God it IS possible. (Supernatural Childbirth)

I understand why some women wait to share the good news until after the riskiest time has passed. But we decided that the only thing keeping us from sharing what God was doing in us would be the fear that it wouldn’t come to pass. So, at 4 weeks, we opted to have faith that it would come to pass and let our families in on our joy. Also, we believed that their agreement in celebration and confession would speak life into our unborn child. Needless to say…everyone IS elated!

WE’RE NOT PREGNANT?

At about 6 weeks into the pregnancy, we sat in the dimly lit doctor’s exam room excited and staring at the monitor to get the first glimpse of our Baby King. The ultrasound technician moved the wand around and around trying to get a clear picture of our baby. But all she could find was the yolk sac and the gestational sac. She said there was no baby! We all thought, “Perhaps it’s just too early.” So, they took my blood and made another appointment in a week to get another look. The next day I received a call from the perinatal specialist with very bad news. My HCG numbers hadn’t doubled which were signs that I was miscarrying. She told us to come back in and have another ultrasound to confirm.

At the next appointment we were cautiously hopeful and trusting God that our Baby King had developed more and we would be able to see him.

Together, my husband and I stared at the screen and it looked the same as it did the week before. The nurse left the room. The perinatal specialist came in and confirmed our worst fears. The baby had not developed. There was no fetal pole and a miscarriage was inevitable. She recommended that we have a D&C, (essentially an abortion), which would allow us to immediately try again. She told us that it could take up to 6 weeks for my body to purge ‘the products of pregnancy’. She stressed that a natural miscarriage could be extremely painful, could cause an infection and it would delay our chances of getting pregnant again. Her professional opinion was that a D&C would be our only option. I couldn’t stop the tears. I had already prepared myself for this news and was all ready to speak the word of God to the situation immediately. But in that moment, I had no words. I had no confidence. It even felt like I had no faith.

My mind raced. “This can’t be true. How could this be? God you healed my body for this. We prayed for this. I’ve had dreams about my Baby King. This just cannot be!”  I cried. I felt helpless, hopeless and I wondered, where my faith had gone?

We left the specialist’s office and went to discuss what had just happened. Over lunch, decided to consider the D&C and we vowed to try again immediately. Emotionally exhausted, I went home and went straight to bed.

I was about to accept miscarriage as my fate when I called a friend and told her what happened. Immediately she said “NO! That cannot happen. Children are a gift from God and God’s gifts are given without repentance. We are redeemed from the curse. We will not accept that! You can’t accept that! Let God’s word be true and every man a lie.”

She went on and on force-feeding me the Word of God and I took in every bit of it. This same friend has endured 6 miscarriages and she was not putting up with Satan stealing another child, even if it wasn’t her own. I listened to her cry out for me to believe as she helped to rebuild my faith. It’s interesting how easily you lose your footing when you have been shaken by your worst fears. Fortunately for me, my faith was restored in that very moment. I held on to every word and I wouldn’t let go. After talking with her, I felt so much better and stronger even. I knew that I was in for a fight; the fight of my life. I guess that’s what the Word means by “fight the good fight of faith”.

I decided in that very moment…that I’m going to believe God. If my body ‘passes’ this baby, I will deal with it. But until that happens, I am going to trust and believe. A few minutes later I received a call from my husband. We discussed it and we were in agreement! We decided to walk by faith and not by sight.

At our next appointment, our OB/GYN was PERFECT! She said, “Let’s wait a week and then do another ultrasound. We’ll just give it some time. If your body starts showing symptoms, we’ll deal with it. If not, we’ll get the good news next week.” That was just what we wanted to hear.The next week, we were more hopeful. However the ultrasound looked almost the same.  This time there was a fetal pole that was measuring 6 weeks old, but there was no heartbeat.  By then we were almost 9 weeks. There should have been much more fetal development.My OB/GYN lovingly gave us our options, yet again. Then she asked me to just be honest with her and tell her where I was. I was blunt and said, “I’m not ready to give up.”

She didn’t question me at all. She simply said “Let’s wait another 2 weeks and take another look.” We agreed.

THE HOPE

In the midst of all of this, I began searching the web for stories of hope; stories of women who had been where I was.

I stumbled upon a web site that has literally changed my life: MisdiagnosedMiscarriage.com.  This web site has hundreds of testimonies of mothers who were diagnosed with miscarriage for multiple reasons. These mother’s doctors recommended D&C and instead they opted to allow their bodies to process the miscarriage naturally. Many of their babies are alive and well today!

I was glued to the computer, forwarding story after story to my husband for him to read as well.  This built our faith like never before.

HOLDING ON TO HOPE

Going through a miscarriage diagnosis is NOT easy. Physically you still feel pregnant, but the joy of pregnancy has been completely stolen and replaced with fear and uncertainty.

Emotionally you are torn. You’re afraid, confused and you really don’t know who or what to believe & ultimately trust. You know what you saw on the monitor, but you want to trust God and believe for the best. It becomes impossible to focus your thoughts on anything else. You’re frustrated and angry and the pregnancy hormones don’t make any of it easier. And yet there’s still a shred of hope that it’s all just a mistake and everything will be ok. So far, I’ve been asked 3 times if I wanted to have a D&C. After reading so many testimonies, it became quite clear to me that a D&C was NOT an option for us at all.

To date I have had no signs of miscarriage and it has been 6 weeks since my doctor first diagnosed our pregnancy as a miscarriage!

We are working the Word of God like never before and we are confident that He who began a good work in me, will complete it! (Philippians 1:6).

THE REVELATION & THE WARNING

As I read through the countless testimonies, it dawned on me – OMG! There must be an astounding number of mothers who have unknowingly ‘aborted’ their babies before 13 weeks because of a doctor’s recommendation.On this website alone, there were mothers who were beyond their 9th week and they still hadn’t found their baby on an ultrasound. Yet, later in the pregnancy, the baby was found growing normally with no issues whatsoever.Some mothers didn’t even hear the heartbeat until the 13th week. This made me wonder how many mothers have opted for a D&C prior to the 13th week because they didn’t hear a heartbeat?

That’s when it really hit me and I could clearly see what Satan is doing…even today!

The word of God tells us that he’s a thief, and he comes to steal, kill and destroy. That is exactly what he is doing and he is using the mothers themselves to help him in his destruction…yes even mothers of faith! Here’s how he does it. If he can get a mother to FEAR and then believe that she has already lost her unborn child, he can convince her to make an appointment, show up, lie on a table and unwittingly terminate a perfectly healthy pregnancy.

IT GETS WORSE

I also learned that the D&C procedure causes scar tissue (Asherman’s syndrome) to build up in the uterus. That scar tissue makes it far more difficult for a future fertilized egg to implant itself into the lining of the uterus. Basically, multiple D&Cs can potentially result in total infertility. So, there it is. Satan is convincing mothers to terminate perfectly healthy babies. And then the process of termination can ultimately cause their infertility.  All of this occurs when a perfectly healthy baby could have been the initial result had the mother been advised to wait. WOW! That’s why God’s word says my people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.  (Hosea 4:6).

NO CONDEMNATION (Romans 8:1)

Please know that I am not here to judge anyone for their personal, private decision. Had I not found this website, I may have become exasperated by the process and opted to end my own misery with a D&C.

SO, WHAT’S THE SOLUTION?

Miscarriages do happen, even though it’s not God’s will. However, the testimonies confirm that not all cased of diagnosed miscarriages are accurate.So, if you or someone you know has been diagnosed with a miscarriage and a D&C is the recommended ‘treatment’, WAIT and DO NOTHING! Even after a 2nd or 3rd opinion…WAIT! Why rush to have a D&C or take a pill to induce a miscarriage? Our bodies are perfectly capable of managing that process. They have been for thousands of years. Waiting and allowing the natural process to take place will give you the certainty that an imperfect doctor cannot. Remember that man and his creations (machines) are fallible. Time is your friend, not your enemy. Allow God the time to do what He said He would do. (Philippians 1:6). Sure you will feel ‘crazy’ when your doctor stares you in the eye and confirms your worst fears, but the word tells us to FEAR NOT! Only Believe! (…, and she shall be made whole. Luke 8:50).

DISCLAIMER:

If you are having excessive bleeding, high fever, unstable vital signs or excessive pain, you should see a doctor immediately. But still stay in faith! As I continued to scour the web for testimonies, I found stories of women who bled profusely and still delivered a healthy baby. There were stories where mothers thought they had miscarried but were found to be pregnant many weeks later. There were even 2 accounts where mothers went through with the D&C and the baby still survived.

STAND IN FAITH!

Let this be an opportunity for us all to strengthen our faith and watch the word of God manifest in our lives. After all, we have too much invested in our baby kings to let them go without a fight…even if all we have to do to fight is STAND and BELIEVE God!

Now therefore stand and see this great thing, which the LORD will do before your eyes. (Samuel 12:16)

WE OVERCOME BY … THE WORD OF OUR TESTIMONY (Revelation 12:11)

I decided to share this very private and painful experience, while we are still in the midst of it, for one reason alone: Hosea 4:6 – My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. I couldn’t, in good conscience, keep this to myself after I learned how Satan is using this painful circumstance to utterly destroy healthy children and the wombs of their loving mothers.Women need to be informed, and equipped with the word so that they are able to successfully to stand up against [all] the strategies and the deceits of the devil. (Ephesians 6:11).

WHAT ABOUT YOU?

Do you have a misdiagnosed miscarriage testimony? Did you elect to have a D&C based on one or more doctors’ recommendations before the 13th week? Multiple times?

I want to hear from you. I’m collecting testimonies and yours could help build another mother’s faith. Please send your story to Queenie@QueenieBrown.com.

With the right knowledge, we can prevent this from happening to other mothers-to-be nationwide.

Originally Published by BLOGMAGAZINE.ORG – MAY 2012

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3 Comments

  • Sonia

    Reply Reply August 24, 2012

    Hi, I just wanted to say that I too stumbled across this website during this painful time in my life. My husband and I were pregnant and similar to your story, we watched as on the screen at our first ultrasound, there was no baby! Our ultrasound tech was very very inexperienced and extremely upsetting. She was just like..there is no baby. I broke down in the office and my husband had to pick me up off the floor..I had no clue what happened to my faith…I was just heart broken. That news rung in my ears for weeks . As we tried to cope with the news, we did believe God. We tried to remain in faith and also had another ultrasound which unfortunately confirmed the same. I was devastated and had no clue what to say or do. W’e opted to have the D&C because it was emotionally draining for me to just wait it out..my heart couldn’t take it. I just wanted it to be over. We had a total of 4 miscarraiges altogether but this was the only one in which it happened almost exactly as described in the article. Well praise God, we didnt stop believing God and we now have FOUR beautiful, and healthy children. I had no complications during childbirth or my pregnancies. Despite my history I chose to believe God, but I do wish that I had found the misdiagnosed pregnancy website BEFORE we elected to do the D&C. I just urge any other expecting mother that finds herself in this disappointing and unexpected situation, to resist fear and stay in faith. I strongly believe that with God all things are possible, no matter what the doctor says or what is or is not on the ultrasound monitor. The testimonies on the website are Amazing!!

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